Im a 19 year old female who is pre med at a university right now. You will buy expensive disability insurance, malpractice insurance, and life insurance to provide a snippet of comfort for the great, unknowable future. No easy answers here. It makes it hard to plan any sort of date. I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. The decisions we have made in how to raise our kids have been our decisions alone. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl.
How will this all be once we have children?. She's a shell of her former self and it breaks by heart to this day. No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over. There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. He can relate to me and we can relate to each other which makes us strong to begin with. We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. Long story short, everyone is dead on. And faith and trust. See to it that she is aware of your plan, so you both can properly dress. Having married over the course of my life not one but two wonderful non-Mormon men one Jewish and one low-church ProtestantI can say that my own spirituality has been profoundly deepened and enriched by the perspective that these two God-fearing and spiritually mature people offered me, and by my participation in the observances of their traditions.
It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. Choose courses based on your needs. But there are many people on here who truly devoutly believed in Mormonism and broke free. I pray the holy Spirit will provide guidance to both of us, and that love conquers all. Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned. Does he have a faith similarly conversion-focused as I could see that being a challenge.
We should all remember this is a human being, and she has a brain. When those are not around or when the circumstances or the spirit indicate otherwise then prayer is more than enough. Finally, it is a very tight-knit community and despite efforts to insulate you from conversion-minded missionaries, you will be exposed to a lot of people that think, like this woman does, that atheists are without a moral compass. I had to tell her to stop communicating with my husband she was fired but he had urged her to "keep in touch!!. The man had essentially been in acadamics his whole life and was emotionally immature. If you are only after non-serious dates and spend a great time, you should be fine with this set up. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. In 5 years, one thing has become certain to me.